I have been doing that. I let him reach out to me more often than not. And he does, but it's usually for a ride home from the bar and then to frick frack. Which fine. I figured that was our lot in life together. But now that I realized we've been together for 2 years and literally nothing has changed, I don't want to keep doing it. At all.
I'd understand if he did this to me a few times. But we hardly ever talk about me and my problems. Hell, we hardly ever really have a conversation. Period. And I'm getting fed up with it.
I would try to talk to him about it except tonight is the third night in a row he's ignored me. I texted him last night to see if he was upset with me, but I never got a response.
I'm just tired of this shit.
Continue to not take people's crap, especially Joe's. If he's not considering your feelings on his, you shouldn't be taking his or his crap. He seems to be really moody, and you've said he's depressive, and having known many of those types, they just do crap like that all the time. I'm guilty of it too. Just leave off the texting at that last message(unless and actual conversation comes up) and wait for him to meet you on your terms, like him asking YOU if you wanna hang out. Let him know you're not there at his beck and call and not jumping for the phone at his every text. Put a bit of distance there until he feels like extending himself to YOU.
Ughh, that sucks. The only thing I can think of is that maybe he gets so caught up in his own problems that he forgets that other people can get overwhelmed or need support. I do that sometimes and admittedly I sometimes catch myself doing that and have to remind myself not to be selfish or make it all about me. So maybe you could tell him all this, because he might not realize that you feel frustrated with him for these reasons. But you're right, you shouldn't have to take crap like that.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/22/14 | Reply
@DemonsandAngels:
Well, if he's ignoring you, that's just childish and there's nothing you can do about that.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/22/14 | Reply
@DuArMittAllt:
I have been doing that. I let him reach out to me more often than not. And he does, but it's usually for a ride home from the bar and then to frick frack. Which fine. I figured that was our lot in life together. But now that I realized we've been together for 2 years and literally nothing has changed, I don't want to keep doing it. At all.
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/22/14 | Reply
@Sarasface:
I'd understand if he did this to me a few times. But we hardly ever talk about me and my problems. Hell, we hardly ever really have a conversation. Period. And I'm getting fed up with it.
I would try to talk to him about it except tonight is the third night in a row he's ignored me. I texted him last night to see if he was upset with me, but I never got a response.
I'm just tired of this shit.
DuArMittAllt
Otakuite++ | Posted 08/21/14 | Reply
Continue to not take people's crap, especially Joe's. If he's not considering your feelings on his, you shouldn't be taking his or his crap. He seems to be really moody, and you've said he's depressive, and having known many of those types, they just do crap like that all the time. I'm guilty of it too. Just leave off the texting at that last message(unless and actual conversation comes up) and wait for him to meet you on your terms, like him asking YOU if you wanna hang out. Let him know you're not there at his beck and call and not jumping for the phone at his every text. Put a bit of distance there until he feels like extending himself to YOU.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/21/14 | Reply
Ughh, that sucks. The only thing I can think of is that maybe he gets so caught up in his own problems that he forgets that other people can get overwhelmed or need support. I do that sometimes and admittedly I sometimes catch myself doing that and have to remind myself not to be selfish or make it all about me. So maybe you could tell him all this, because he might not realize that you feel frustrated with him for these reasons. But you're right, you shouldn't have to take crap like that.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.