TheO is great because almost everyone here is really friendly and full of advice. Don't stress the emotional masks too much. Everyone wears them C:
It would hurt a lot of you found out that they're not really friends to you, even if you guys do enjoy spending time together. But, I've gone through this a lot lately, and the longer you think a person cares about you and likes you when they really hate you, the harder it hurts when you find out the truth. The truth hurts, but it's best to know. You still have two other friends, you still have me and others here on theO. And, you don't even know if they don't care or not. You'd be sparing even more hurt feelings in the future if you just talk to them about it. But if they're like bimbos or cheerleaders or something, like they sorta sound like, then they're just.....agh....
It's hard to ignore it, I've been there before. Even after you learn to ignore it, sometimes it creeps in your head and it brings ya down. But, if you can please yourself, if you do things that make you happy and if you have faith in yourself, what anyone else thinks doesn't matter.
Exactly. Trust me, there's a positive to everything, and there's always a way to make yourself feel better C:
Oh gosh, you're awesome. -hugs- You're great at helping people from what I see so it's good you love doing it.
I'm that way, too. Thus the masks where born. OTL I'm glad I have people to talk to on theO like you, Neko Hikaru and Kuro-chan [even though all he said was 'don't do stupid shit' xD]. >w<
But I'm afraid of their reaction because if they ignore me, they aren't my friends. And where does that leave me? Betrayed again by someone I thought was my friends and with only two RL friends?
I guess I'll learn how to ignore it at some point. It's just not that point yet. :/
...Yeah... Yeah, I'll do that. I'll try to find something. It'll be hard, but hey. If it's difficult, it's worth the challenge.
Last edited by XnomdeplumeX at 11:23:40 PM CDT on July 1, 2011.
I try to do what I can for my friends! I try to look at both sides of the situation, and find a positive. I never fail at the positive thing xD;; And now, you're a new online baby sister! *HUGGLES* I'm happy to know I can help cause that's what I love to do the most C:
It's not sad. Sometimes, you have to hide what you feel to protect yourself. If people I know always knew how I felt, they'd probably send me to a mental institute because my mood changes so often from chipper and dandy to really angry and about to explode. So, I always try to act like I'm just feeling goofy and silly even if I'm not. Sometimes you have to do it so others don't worry, or so others don't get sad seeing you sad. Emotions can rub off onto the people you're around so pretending it's all ok around friends isn't a bad thing to do. As long as you get your true emotions out somewhere because bottling things up inside all the time is awful. Doing such has caused me to have severe emotional break downs before, and I don't want you to go through that. And, don't apologize for venting. I vent in my world a lot as well. You're entitled to do such, and it doesn't annoy me in the least. You mean no harm, you're just expressing your emotions. If you vent, I can read it and I can be there to help you C:
Well if they just ignore you and they don't take your feelings into consideration, how are they friends? Friends are there for each other no matter what. They care and respect each other. If they ignore you, they're not worth your time.
My parents do such things that are only intended to be good, but it does rub me the wrong way, too. Sometimes when I'm sad and I know it shows, they constantly ask me whats wrong and snoop around my room and stuff just to find traces of something that could be bothering me. And, it's annoying to have your privacy invaded. But I've learned to kinda just brush it off. Teenagers aren't always gonna talk, so they probably figure it's the best way to understand what's going on with you. My dad has been like this for years, and while it brings me down, I've already realized, in my opinion, the only definition of "perfect" and it makes me feel better, even if I can't please my dad C:
It bothers me when people are hypocrites, and I do it too. Which, is hypocritical of us xDD
Everyone's life gets on their nerves once in a while. Mine gets on my nerves, too. But remember, the best thing you can do for yourself is to find a positive to oppose everything that's bringing ya down. Life is more enjoyable when you don't dwell in anger and sadness C:
This did help. A lot You are just like a really awesome big sister. Thank you. You've given me a lot of insight on my problems. I appreciate it. >_<
For certain reasons, I've learned to put up a pretty good mask of fake emotions. It may be sad, but true. So I don't really let them know I'm hurt by it. I just stare at them and smile. Not a genuine smile, but a smile is a smile. They are too stupid to realize the difference anyway. I vent here because I have no one else to tell. I'm sure it must get on peoples nerves a lot. So, sorry about that. :/
The people I'm talking about, even though they act all lezy-love-love with each other don't really talk about.. feelings, I guess. So I'm afraid that if I told them about that they would either just say "don't worry about it" or just kinda ignore it all together and just keep on doing it...
I know they only mean well, but it just rubs me the wrong way. It may sound odd, but I hate that people worry about me. It's my own fault because I act so.. like I do. It makes me feel bad to complain but I can't help it. My parents aren't cruel people. They mean well in most every thing they do and I understand that. I'm also sorry to hear about your dad.. That must be really hard for you.
I'm a hypocrite, but it still bothers me. OH THE MADNESS.
And I know my life doesn't suck. Tiny bits and pieces of it do sometimes.. But that's the same with 99% of the world. This was an I-was-angry-while-typing-this vent post. Again thank you. -hug-
*comment stalked so I don't have to ask what's wrong*
People who betray, and stab you in the back, they say ugly things. That's what they do. They do it because they're pathetic, and usually insecure about themselves so they have to insult someone to make them feel better. Usually, their target is picked for a reason, like, maybe they're jealous of you for some reason. Then, they'll decide to pick on you so they feel like they don't have any reason to be jealous. It's lame, it's weak, it's very sad. It's not worth anyone's time to worry about crap like that. Letting their ugly words get into your head is giving them exactly what they want. They say it to hurt you, so if you let it, they'll feel like they accomplished something. All they did is prove how sad they are, but that's their choice. You're better than them, so don't let their crap get to you.
Don't worry about your other friends *left a comment on the lesbo-lovey post* If they're really your friends, you can just tell them that you feel a little left out, and, because of past experiences, you're afraid they may hurt you. If they say they won't, that doesn't guarantee it, but it might put your mind at rest a bit.
My dad is just like that. He blames my sister and I anytime something goes wrong. Even dumb, pointless things that I literally can PROVE is his fault. But, it's our fault because he can't take the blame for it. Some people are just like that. They refuse to accept fault. And, I think a lot of children feel like their parents expect more out of them than they can give. Sometimes, parents are just cruel. In my case, my dad IS cruel and he literally disapproves of everything I say and do. He always calls my sister and I weird, and he always nags at us and reminds us of what we've done slightly wrong. Makes me feel like a disappointment, honestly. But other times, parents pressure their children and expect out of them because they want good for their children. If a parent didn't act as though they expected anything out of their child, their kids could end up lazy, irresponsible and then they'd fall behind in school, and they'd never make it in the real world. Sometimes they just want what's best for you, and if they pressure you into trying your hardest, or harder than your hardest, you'll succeed.
Hypocrites are really annoying, but remember that everyone is hypocritical at some point. We all do things that we say we never do, or say we hate. I do it a lot, over dumb little things, but it's enough to make me just ignore hypocrites and move on.
Lately, I've grown distant from my family, too. I've been really closed off from people for the most part, and I don't know why. My parents comment about it a lot, but, sometimes, a teenager just wants to be alone. And, teenagers are moody. We're gonna be bitchy. They have the right to be curious, though, as they are your parents and they're probably worried that you're doing something you shouldn't be, or hanging with a bad crowd of people or something. Sometimes a parent being nosy is just their way of looking out for you and trying to make sure things are OK in your life. Other cases, it's not like that. But, remember that they may not want to be rude, or to annoy you.
I don't know what to say about your friend's mom. Sometimes, people are know-it-alls. And, maybe she's just trying to be supportive. I do see where it's annoying though.
Sorry if this doesn't help. I sorta understand where you're coming off with being frustrated. But, your life doesn't SUCK, you're just having a negative attitude C:
Now that you mention it, that's true.. :< *gladly excepts hug again* Thank you. Sometimes I wish I could just be a little kid again. So when life gets tough you can just play pretend. When your biggest problem was a broken barbie and people didn't change.. And every time you were sad or you had a bad day, you could just run to mom and it would all be okay. But, maybe I'm better off without all the childish thoughts I had back then. Who knows. I can't go back, so I might as well try and "find comfort in pain".
Last edited by XnomdeplumeX at 8:05:53 PM CDT on July 1, 2011.
*gladly excepts hug* Well... a lot of stuff really. The people who betrayed me in the past found me today inside a store while my mom was somewhere else and they had some not-so-kind things to say to me.. Also the fact that I am really beginning to think that two of my actual friends now are going to hurt me. My parents keep blaming things on me that I haven't done and are constantly expecting more from me than I can give them. They are also hypocrites, so that doesn't help my little anger problems. They didn't trust me very much to begin with, but now that I have become more distant and kinda bitchy around them, they don't trust me at all and demand to know what I'm doing all the time. Also the fact that my moms friend keeps acting like she knows everything that is wrong with me and she kept say to me "It's okay if your PMSing! It happens to every woman everywhere!" Even though that is not my problem, and if it was, she doesn't need to comment about it considering I'VE NEVER SPOKEN TO HER BEFORE TODAY.
...Sorry. That was a lot...
XnomdeplumeX
Senior Otaku | Posted 07/02/11 | Reply
@Morbid Dollie:
You do to! >:I
And you're right.. About everything.
Which is really annoying.Sigh. I'll talk to them about it and see how it works out. :/Morbid Dollie
Strawberry (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/02/11 | Reply
@XnomdeplumeX:
Aww, I don't deserve that! x3
TheO is great because almost everyone here is really friendly and full of advice. Don't stress the emotional masks too much. Everyone wears them C:
It would hurt a lot of you found out that they're not really friends to you, even if you guys do enjoy spending time together. But, I've gone through this a lot lately, and the longer you think a person cares about you and likes you when they really hate you, the harder it hurts when you find out the truth. The truth hurts, but it's best to know. You still have two other friends, you still have me and others here on theO. And, you don't even know if they don't care or not. You'd be sparing even more hurt feelings in the future if you just talk to them about it. But if they're like bimbos or cheerleaders or something, like they sorta sound like, then they're just.....agh....
It's hard to ignore it, I've been there before. Even after you learn to ignore it, sometimes it creeps in your head and it brings ya down. But, if you can please yourself, if you do things that make you happy and if you have faith in yourself, what anyone else thinks doesn't matter.
Exactly. Trust me, there's a positive to everything, and there's always a way to make yourself feel better C:
-those with the biggest hearts hurt the most
XnomdeplumeX
Senior Otaku | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@Morbid Dollie:
Oh gosh, you're awesome. -hugs- You're great at helping people from what I see so it's good you love doing it.
I'm that way, too. Thus the masks where born. OTL I'm glad I have people to talk to on theO like you, Neko Hikaru and Kuro-chan [even though all he said was 'don't do stupid shit' xD]. >w<
But I'm afraid of their reaction because if they ignore me, they aren't my friends. And where does that leave me? Betrayed again by someone I thought was my friends and with only two RL friends?
I guess I'll learn how to ignore it at some point. It's just not that point yet. :/
...Yeah... Yeah, I'll do that. I'll try to find something. It'll be hard, but hey. If it's difficult, it's worth the challenge.
Last edited by XnomdeplumeX at 11:23:40 PM CDT on July 1, 2011.
Morbid Dollie
Strawberry (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@XnomdeplumeX:
I try to do what I can for my friends! I try to look at both sides of the situation, and find a positive. I never fail at the positive thing xD;; And now, you're a new online baby sister! *HUGGLES* I'm happy to know I can help cause that's what I love to do the most C:
It's not sad. Sometimes, you have to hide what you feel to protect yourself. If people I know always knew how I felt, they'd probably send me to a mental institute because my mood changes so often from chipper and dandy to really angry and about to explode. So, I always try to act like I'm just feeling goofy and silly even if I'm not. Sometimes you have to do it so others don't worry, or so others don't get sad seeing you sad. Emotions can rub off onto the people you're around so pretending it's all ok around friends isn't a bad thing to do. As long as you get your true emotions out somewhere because bottling things up inside all the time is awful. Doing such has caused me to have severe emotional break downs before, and I don't want you to go through that. And, don't apologize for venting. I vent in my world a lot as well. You're entitled to do such, and it doesn't annoy me in the least. You mean no harm, you're just expressing your emotions. If you vent, I can read it and I can be there to help you C:
Well if they just ignore you and they don't take your feelings into consideration, how are they friends? Friends are there for each other no matter what. They care and respect each other. If they ignore you, they're not worth your time.
My parents do such things that are only intended to be good, but it does rub me the wrong way, too. Sometimes when I'm sad and I know it shows, they constantly ask me whats wrong and snoop around my room and stuff just to find traces of something that could be bothering me. And, it's annoying to have your privacy invaded. But I've learned to kinda just brush it off. Teenagers aren't always gonna talk, so they probably figure it's the best way to understand what's going on with you. My dad has been like this for years, and while it brings me down, I've already realized, in my opinion, the only definition of "perfect" and it makes me feel better, even if I can't please my dad C:
It bothers me when people are hypocrites, and I do it too. Which, is hypocritical of us xDD
Everyone's life gets on their nerves once in a while. Mine gets on my nerves, too. But remember, the best thing you can do for yourself is to find a positive to oppose everything that's bringing ya down. Life is more enjoyable when you don't dwell in anger and sadness C:
-those with the biggest hearts hurt the most
XnomdeplumeX
Senior Otaku | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@Morbid Dollie:
This did help. A lot You are just like a really awesome big sister. Thank you. You've given me a lot of insight on my problems. I appreciate it. >_<
For certain reasons, I've learned to put up a pretty good mask of fake emotions. It may be sad, but true. So I don't really let them know I'm hurt by it. I just stare at them and smile. Not a genuine smile, but a smile is a smile. They are too stupid to realize the difference anyway. I vent here because I have no one else to tell. I'm sure it must get on peoples nerves a lot. So, sorry about that. :/
The people I'm talking about, even though they act all lezy-love-love with each other don't really talk about.. feelings, I guess. So I'm afraid that if I told them about that they would either just say "don't worry about it" or just kinda ignore it all together and just keep on doing it...
I know they only mean well, but it just rubs me the wrong way. It may sound odd, but I hate that people worry about me. It's my own fault because I act so.. like I do. It makes me feel bad to complain but I can't help it. My parents aren't cruel people. They mean well in most every thing they do and I understand that. I'm also sorry to hear about your dad.. That must be really hard for you.
I'm a hypocrite, but it still bothers me. OH THE MADNESS.
And I know my life doesn't suck. Tiny bits and pieces of it do sometimes.. But that's the same with 99% of the world. This was an I-was-angry-while-typing-this vent post. Again thank you. -hug-
Domine Kuro
Otaku Legend | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@XnomdeplumeX:
ok just making sure.
XnomdeplumeX
Senior Otaku | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@Domine Kuro:
I wasn't planning on offing myself if that's what you are referring to. :C
XnomdeplumeX
Senior Otaku | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@Neko Hikaru:
^^ That's a really nice thing to say. And I'm glad that you can be happy happy after to talking to some people. I'm that way, too.
Morbid Dollie
Strawberry (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@XnomdeplumeX:
*comment stalked so I don't have to ask what's wrong*
People who betray, and stab you in the back, they say ugly things. That's what they do. They do it because they're pathetic, and usually insecure about themselves so they have to insult someone to make them feel better. Usually, their target is picked for a reason, like, maybe they're jealous of you for some reason. Then, they'll decide to pick on you so they feel like they don't have any reason to be jealous. It's lame, it's weak, it's very sad. It's not worth anyone's time to worry about crap like that. Letting their ugly words get into your head is giving them exactly what they want. They say it to hurt you, so if you let it, they'll feel like they accomplished something. All they did is prove how sad they are, but that's their choice. You're better than them, so don't let their crap get to you.
Don't worry about your other friends *left a comment on the lesbo-lovey post* If they're really your friends, you can just tell them that you feel a little left out, and, because of past experiences, you're afraid they may hurt you. If they say they won't, that doesn't guarantee it, but it might put your mind at rest a bit.
My dad is just like that. He blames my sister and I anytime something goes wrong. Even dumb, pointless things that I literally can PROVE is his fault. But, it's our fault because he can't take the blame for it. Some people are just like that. They refuse to accept fault. And, I think a lot of children feel like their parents expect more out of them than they can give. Sometimes, parents are just cruel. In my case, my dad IS cruel and he literally disapproves of everything I say and do. He always calls my sister and I weird, and he always nags at us and reminds us of what we've done slightly wrong. Makes me feel like a disappointment, honestly. But other times, parents pressure their children and expect out of them because they want good for their children. If a parent didn't act as though they expected anything out of their child, their kids could end up lazy, irresponsible and then they'd fall behind in school, and they'd never make it in the real world. Sometimes they just want what's best for you, and if they pressure you into trying your hardest, or harder than your hardest, you'll succeed.
Hypocrites are really annoying, but remember that everyone is hypocritical at some point. We all do things that we say we never do, or say we hate. I do it a lot, over dumb little things, but it's enough to make me just ignore hypocrites and move on.
Lately, I've grown distant from my family, too. I've been really closed off from people for the most part, and I don't know why. My parents comment about it a lot, but, sometimes, a teenager just wants to be alone. And, teenagers are moody. We're gonna be bitchy. They have the right to be curious, though, as they are your parents and they're probably worried that you're doing something you shouldn't be, or hanging with a bad crowd of people or something. Sometimes a parent being nosy is just their way of looking out for you and trying to make sure things are OK in your life. Other cases, it's not like that. But, remember that they may not want to be rude, or to annoy you.
I don't know what to say about your friend's mom. Sometimes, people are know-it-alls. And, maybe she's just trying to be supportive. I do see where it's annoying though.
Sorry if this doesn't help. I sorta understand where you're coming off with being frustrated. But, your life doesn't SUCK, you're just having a negative attitude C:
-those with the biggest hearts hurt the most
Domine Kuro
Otaku Legend | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
dont go doin no stupid shit.
Neko Hikaru
Otakuite+ | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@XnomdeplumeX:
yeah, but i just try to act happy ^-^ see i'm doin it right now lol i'm always sad unless i'm talking to you, Dom-chan or kisskiss-bangbang
XnomdeplumeX
Senior Otaku | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@Neko Hikaru:
That's why I made a venting world or else I would just spontaneously combust. orz
Neko Hikaru
Otakuite+ | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@XnomdeplumeX:
^-^ yeah, i hold in all of my pain...but after a while it's too much to handle, so i just lose it :3
XnomdeplumeX
Senior Otaku | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@Neko Hikaru:
Now that you mention it, that's true.. :< *gladly excepts hug again* Thank you. Sometimes I wish I could just be a little kid again. So when life gets tough you can just play pretend. When your biggest problem was a broken barbie and people didn't change.. And every time you were sad or you had a bad day, you could just run to mom and it would all be okay. But, maybe I'm better off without all the childish thoughts I had back then. Who knows. I can't go back, so I might as well try and "find comfort in pain".
Last edited by XnomdeplumeX at 8:05:53 PM CDT on July 1, 2011.
Neko Hikaru
Otakuite+ | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@XnomdeplumeX:
it seems that most otakus have hard lives :( it seriously sucks *hugs again* believe me, your not alone
XnomdeplumeX
Senior Otaku | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
@Neko Hikaru:
*gladly excepts hug* Well... a lot of stuff really. The people who betrayed me in the past found me today inside a store while my mom was somewhere else and they had some not-so-kind things to say to me.. Also the fact that I am really beginning to think that two of my actual friends now are going to hurt me. My parents keep blaming things on me that I haven't done and are constantly expecting more from me than I can give them. They are also hypocrites, so that doesn't help my little anger problems. They didn't trust me very much to begin with, but now that I have become more distant and kinda bitchy around them, they don't trust me at all and demand to know what I'm doing all the time. Also the fact that my moms friend keeps acting like she knows everything that is wrong with me and she kept say to me "It's okay if your PMSing! It happens to every woman everywhere!" Even though that is not my problem, and if it was, she doesn't need to comment about it considering I'VE NEVER SPOKEN TO HER BEFORE TODAY.
...Sorry. That was a lot...
Neko Hikaru
Otakuite+ | Posted 07/01/11 | Reply
*hugs* what's wrong???