Little Sayu (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 11/24/11 | Reply
No no no, this post didn't stem from anyone online xD It has to do with some stuff I've been having to deal with at my school. I'm alright though, I've been thinking about it more and I'm trying to find my own way of dealing with it ^^
I agree though, it's definitely true that there will always be someone in the world that isn't pleased with what you do. It's just how life is. Thanks so much, Kris-chan for your comment<3 It means a lot to hear that you feel the same way sometimes.
Otaku Legend | Posted 11/24/11 | Reply
To be honest, I don't understand why you're saying you're not fit to be a leader. It's true that I don't know you... but you're doing really well on the SS event. You're very organized and put accent on rules. I'm not a rule fan and I surely like to break rules, but not when I'm participating in a project. If anyone in the project acted on their own, then the whole project would fall apart. Some people think that being serious means being mean. It's not the same thing! "Mean" is when you punch them in the face for not doing their job, "serious" is when you tell them "Do your job on time."
In school, all my group projects went well and were done on time when I was the group leader, no matter when I worked with. And that's probably because I was harsh. (Well, everyone hated me anyway.) Even people who don't usually work on projects did their job in my group. In a group, someone has to be serious, some other one has to be the one who creates a nice atmosphere, but the serious one has to be the leader. The leader is the one who keeps everything together, so if you are serious, then you are fit to be a leader. Of course I'm not talking about the tyrannous kind of leader, but I'm sure you're not that type.
I don't think it's such a bad thing to be harsh as a leader. If you're trying to do something with other people and you're the leader of the group, you have to be serious and make them respect the rules and deadlines. So don't feel sorry about it. You're not doing anything wrong ^^
I wish there were more people like you. I mostly had clowns around me, so I would definitely love to work in a project with you. So don't feel sad about what people tell you. They should understand that not the whole life is about joking and having fun.
It's great that you care enough for people and you don't want to hurt anyone, but don't take all the guilt. Before that, stop for a moment and think about who did the wrong thing. If they did a mistake and you tried to correct them, it's not your fault, so you don't have to feel guilty about it...
Also, the rant is not random. And it's not a selfish post. It's okay to let it out ^^
Panski! (Senior Otaku++) | Posted 11/23/11 | Reply
Ah, I hate that feeling all the time. I always tend to think about others first than myself. @_@ Leadership is not my thing either~~ I'm too timid sometimes. ^^'
Don't worry about what other think, Sayura-chan. Just continue to be yourself. If you know that something needs to be done rightfully and correctly, then just do it. There's no doubt that there will always be some that won't approve of your actions. -3- I know some people in my church youth group that, oh gosh, I want to step in and do all the things for them correctly. It's gets frustrating at times, but the emotion passes eventually.
There's certain times to laugh and times to be serious~~ Some people need to understand that~ You're so strong though, girly! You'll be fine! Don't linger on these negatives~ Instead make good results of them afterwards! :DDDDD
Vent all you want, dear! I'll be one of them to read and help you out! Take care too! <33333
Otakuite+ | Posted 11/23/11 | Reply
This isn't my fault is it :'(
I feel like sometimes I have the same problem, but kind of different? I always assume the postition of the follower, so when I step it up, I reallllly step it up. I'm afraid of hurting poeple, but I know that what has to get done has to get done. So don't sweat it I guess is what Im saying. Because people will always find a way to be offended no matter what it is you say or do. And its not your fault.
Day Dreamer~ (Otaku Legend) | Posted 11/23/11 | Reply
First off, your rant is not random, it's you trying to express yourself, and there's nothing wrong with that! In fact, I wish people would have th courage to do this more often ^_^
Secondly, I don't know you too well so I might not be the best person to give advice, however, I'll just answer this anyway, because, I can 150% relate to your story. I know the feeling, and it's crappy. You probably have this shy, timid personality, and you realize, 'hey, I want to step into the sunlight now, I think it's time for change'. Well, maybe not, but that's how it was for me. I wanted to change. And you're right, it's SUPER hard to do that, espeically since the people around you are so used to you being who you were. And the the apologizes come out again. But really, you should not have to feel the need to apologize. Instead, why not explain to them that you're trying to improve yourself? If they're your friends or even aquaintences, and respect you, they should applaud you for trying to make yourself someone you can be MORE proud of. At least that's what I believe!
If they can't understand that, then you shouldn't let this get you down. You have to stick to it and try your best, because the longer you wait, the more harder it will be. YOu have to believe me on that one, I had to wait till college to step out, and geez, it's hard XD. But I think that because I'm surrounded by different people who didn't know the younger me, I find that it's easier to change.
And dude, what's with people thinking that seriousness is when someone is trying to be mean?! Don't they have a dictionary handy? There is a time to laugh and there is a time to be serious! DOn't hate yourself, you know it take s lot of courage to be willing to try and change yourself!
Everyone is fit to be a leader, we just have our own time to bloom and lead. It's just sometimes, some of us take a longer time obtaining the role. Sometimes it requires certain people to allow that leadership strength inside you to be let out, and sometimes it's just situations. But you shouldn't worry, if you're trying hard, you'll definitely be a leader! :3
The anger part...yesh, that's annoying. My best advice is to try and talk to the person first, and explain why you're talking/doing something that they might think is different from what you normally do. Sometimes even asking them to see a situation through your perpective helps them to reflect not only about themselves, but how you're feeling. If you don't tell people how you're feeling inside, they don't know! And then they just assume things like you're mad or ticked at them, when really, you're not. Personally, I know that it's worst to leave that crappy feeling inside yourself than letting it out. It feels so much better! You're afraid of hurting people-that's quite understandable. I think for most people, that would be the case. But if you think about it, is the possible fear of hurting someone greater than the hurt you're doing to yourself?
I'm not trying to say lash out to everyone when you feel like it, I'm just saying it's not good to keep it all inside. You can talk to people and explain...
"Why are you being so serious about this?"
"Because it means something to me, and I want to do my best. I would appreicate it if you could understand that and support me."
"Geez, calm down, gosh I'm sorry"
"You don't have to be sorry, you didn't do anything wrong, I was just trying to voice my opinion and I would be grateful if you could see the situation from my perspective."
"Well fine, but really, what's your problem?"
"Nothing, I just think we should focus of this....I really think we could do well in this if we gave it some thought and try our best...this is just my point of view, I don't necessarily want you to agree with me, but if you could understand, it would be really nice."
See? I hope that helps. *looks up* Wow, I write a lot! I'm so sorry! >.< Probably a lot are kinda just meaningless words, but I hoped a little bit helped! ;) Remember that the decision to change yourself is precious and worthwild. It takes a lot of guts, but in the end it's worth it~!
I'm cheering for you ^_^
~Everyday is a gift, that is why they call it The Present~
Otaku Legend | Posted 11/23/11 | Reply
Awhh okay. I hope it all just goes away soon :D
Ah yes. It's like, you're trying to tick me off, so I get ticked off, and then you're weirded out by me getting ticked off? Do you even KNOW how to do math, sir? xD
*hugs back* no problem, love.
Little Sayu (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 11/23/11 | Reply
Haha no, it's not completely about that. It's just people I work with for groups at school and in class. I guess it can be kinda applied to the wishlist thing, but that's not where it stemmed from, thank goodness. xD If that's where the problem originated, I probably wouldn't have even posted this haha.
But thank you so much, Den-chan T__T You're really really sweet. I know what you mean, especially when people try to annoy me on purpose, it can be terribly frustrating when they think you're being too serious about it. =/
I think I'll be alright though. I just needed to get this off of my chest because I've been dealing with this for SO long, it's been catching up to me more and more over the years.
Thank you for reading through it all T__T *super duper hugs* I'm so grateful for my fantastic friends like you<33
If this is just about the people who didn't get their wishlists in, forget about it! You're just trying to be organized and if they're not ready then they're not ready. Unless there's something you can do about it to make it work, just say "Sorry man but you didn't follow my rules." Just nice and simple.
Anywho, I understand how you feel. I always have a smile on my face so people don't know when to stop annoying me or touching me and stuff. And when I do get mad they're all like, "Oooh Rarrr. Hiss" And I'm like -_- haha. But that doesn't happen too often, thankfully.
If you want ANY help with this SS stuff, just throw me a PM or a facebook message. :) I'll be glad to take some stress off your shoulders.